Our lives are shaped and each railroad tie laid are directly made by every single person we interact with… from mundane to extraodinaire.
From the moment you are born, every interaction you make or don’t make will change the course of your life forever. I will explain how this process essentially predestines where you end up in life.
I personally don’t believe in pre-destiny in the common sense. I believe that each person’s life can change such that there is no such thing as a place you are supposed to end up. It’s a universal law of thermodynamics that things tend to be more random than uniform and I don’t think that changes when referring to outcomes of someones life. Although, it is how you choose to allow this randomness to affect your life.
After some deeper thinking on the subject I’ve come to realize that you essentially create your destiny at a very young age. Not that you are pre-destined but that you are more likely to follow a set of patterns that evidently shape the outcome of where you end up in life.
An analogy I will use is that of a train on a railroad track. Your train departs from the station when you are born and you only get off when you are dead. Along the way people will enter your life, going a similar direction as you but will eventually get off when your life and theirs part ways or when they die. The people closest to you ride this train with you for most of your life. But every decision you make in life, and your interests, behaviors and mannerisms that you learn along the way by these people that join you on your train ride ultimately tell which direction the train will be moving. A train is a large object and it’s difficult to stop, change direction and turn around… this train is always going in a general life direction and will only seriously alter course if something massive happens in your life, usually unexpectedly.
I could detail the train analogy down to every little detail of life but that would take too long. What needs to be understood is that once this train gets moving in a direction, it is very difficult for it to alter it’s course. A child who has a natural ability to design and build things will most likely end up going in the direction of engineer/architect and the people in this child’s life only help but build this quality… once he gets to college and starts to study the subject it is almost guaranteed what field he will get into. If he has an aptitude for being a leader, he’ll probably end up on the management side of the engineering.
The tendencies are endless. Every person we encounter in our life only influences the outcome and strengthens how we understand our own personal abilities… abilities that are founded very early in our childhood.
Like I said, I don’t believe in pre-destiny, but I do believe that very quickly at a young age the scope of your life is quickly narrowed to small area… not necessarily clear, but it’s there. And once the fog clears away, it’s almost inevitable to follow that path.
For example, I am by nature, an introvert. I make up about half of the world population where the other half is extroverted. The difference between being an extrovert and an introvert alone, provides enough incite into where somebody might end up in life, and this is a very very broad personality trait. An extrovert will meet more people and connect to more people in life… they will also converse with more people more often and won’t hide their feelings. An introvert is almost the opposite.
The definition of who we are as a person by the people that help shape us and by our own personal strengths and weaknesses is enough to give us a form of modified destiny. The randomness that I spoke of, above, is still there but it is directed in a certain direction… the train is always moving in a deliberate direction and only gets derailed at a moment in time where what matters in your life suddenly changes.