One of my greatest pet-peeves, if not the greatest pet-peeve I have is when someone either intentionally or unintentionally labels my introversion with being anti-social, shy, depressed, and a whole slew of other fleeting related characteristics. I am the furthest thing from shy and by no means fleeting. I am very opinionated but only choose to speak when I feel like I have something of value to say. In fact, study after study shows that introverts consistently score higher on all forms of tests and outperform most extroverts in the workplace. Society wrongfully condemns introverts and it’s only damaging to nearly all aspects of life in doing so. I know it has made it difficult for me to justify spending time with certain friends who don’t understand introversion because all they do is comment about my “anti-social behavior”. Introverts live inside their own head, and they make up 1/3 to 1/2 of the population. One of the most interesting facets of the introvert-extrovert dichotomy is that most extroverts prefer a significant other whom is an introvert, and visa-verse. Watch this very intriguing Ted Talk about introversion and how society is biased towards extroverts… very interesting. After the video you can read about 10 myths associated with introverts… the only thing I starkly disagree with is that we are not adrenaline junkies. Personally, my “drug of choice” is adrenaline. I seek out exhilarating adventure, and I am about as introvert as they come. “Comment and share below.
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Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
- The ‘quiet’ storm: unleashing the power of introverts (waywardjourney.com)
- Who Will Rule Social Media? Introverts vs. Extroverts (warriorwriters.wordpress.com)
- Soul Searching: Are you shy or introverted? (excessemancipation.com)